The most simple and easy way to be at our essential best, instead of mired in drama, is to understand whether we our thinking is based in abundance or scarcity.
The IAM Learning Community is a Third Stage Business and an Abundance Based Business. We found the concepts created by George Tran in his Third Stage Business model useful in developing the IAM Learning Community as an Abundance Based Business and so we wanted to make these ideas available to our members.
The Drama Triangle is a powerful tool to help you shift from experiences of drama to experiences of being at your best, especially when navigating some of the very predictable phases that the Drama Triangle describes.
The “Career Concepts” article offers different ways to think about career paths beyond simply climbing the corporate ladder. Learn why many kinds of career paths are needed for success in our global knowledge economy.
Use the Results Story Tool to explain the relationship between your Essential Best and results. Make modifications to this tool as they suit you and others.
Use the Essence Map to help determine where you are focusing your attention: on the best of yourself and others or on the drama which is not who you really are. Use this map freely and widely!
I want to add the following video to your access to the Essence Map:
After using the Essence Map for years with folks, the biggest challenge I have is conveying the beautiful nature of Drama. My favorite color is purple; I made Drama purple for a reason. It IS the color of royalty after all.
In this TED talk video Brene Brown talks about the power of vulnerability. Vulnerability, says Brown, ‘underpins shame’. The source of shame, says Brown, is the fear of disconnection. Vulnerability is powerful because in being vulnerable, we allow ourselves to be seen and thus we can allow connection to happen.
The Essence Map provides a way for us to frame shame and fear in the context of our true, abundant, capable natures. Without the context of our Essential Best, it’s tough to talk about fear and shame, which I describe generally as Drama, without getting lost in it.
I’ll be honest and say that I have gotten completely lost in my Drama. I’m talking about the dark night of the soul; Brene Brown describes it as having a breakdown. Sometimes when we have a history of resisting feeling – becoming vulnerable creates more Drama before things get moving. Having a sense of our Essential Best, our connection to our soul, can be our guiding light when things seem the most confusing and bleak.
You could say that Drama, as in fear and shame, are what happen when we become disconnected from our real selves, which then makes it very difficult for us to connect with others. Our real selves are worthy, beautiful, and wonderful, while our Drama selves feel unworthy.
But it’s when we have the courage to be vulnerable about our whole self – both our Drama and our Essential Best – that we discover more about who we really are, our abundant and authentic selves, and who we are becoming.
I like to say that our humanity is our greatest gift and I really mean that. Our humanity, especially when we forget our essence, is what allows us to see both our Essential Best and the disconnection of Drama, and in the process become more and more whole – infinitely. This process of healing and becoming more whole is what happens when we are vulnerable about our Drama, while learning more and more about our true essential selves.
I hope you find the Essence Map, and this TED video useful. Please let us know how it’s going in the comments below.
Use the Energy Map to learn how to explicitly describe being at your best and to learn ways to manage your energy so you can be at your best all the time. Use this tool freely and widely!
The IAM Career Alignment Assessment is an essential guidance instrument to align your career path with your soul journey.
