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A Big C Requires Career Development Planning

by dianecraver on July 22, 2011

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Career Development Planning Can Give You the Results You Want

Recently I learned about Big Cs and Little Cs from my friend, John Berkley, owner of Competitive Edge, an experiential training and development company.

Here’s how it works: You have a decision to make about your career, and you’re not sure what to do. If the consequence is low (little C), use trial and error. If the consequence is high (Big C), you need to plan more.

Career Development Planning Using a Little C Approach

The way I see most people approach their careers is through trial and error. They graduate from college and are just happy to get a job. They don’t really think about their careers, and certainly their managers don’t think about helping them. They go to work every day, do a good job, and collect a paycheck.

But it isn’t long before they stagnate, get laid off, are overlooked for a promotion, feel lost, get tired of working 24/7, doing the work of 3 people, and so on. And so they try to do something about it, but it doesn’t work. And then they just settle, and wind up miserable.

What happened? They thought the consequences would be low if they didn’t invest in career development planning. Maybe they didn’t even know about career development planning!

Career Development Planning Using a Big C Approach

The clients I work with view their careers as an extension of who they are – at their best. They may not start out thinking that way because they’ve been a part of a system that encourages them to be average; but deep inside they know they want more out of their life. They want to shine brightly and shine the light on others as well.

I know for sure that the consequences are high when it comes to making decisions about your career. If you hate going to work, you likely hate your life. If you don’t have the skills, education, or experience you need for the work you want to do, your self-esteem suffers. If you are unclear about what value you create, you don’t get the support you need. If you have gifts but aren’t using them, you become resentful.

And guess what shows up in our organizations, communities and relationships? Stress symptoms such as memory problems, poor judgment, anxiety, depression, anger, chest pain, nausea, alcohol/drug abuse, loss of sleep, overeating. You become poor at balancing work and life so your family suffers. Your energy is low, and you’ve lost your creativity.

These are the things people bring to work with them every day. Is this what we want to contribute to creating? I don’t think so. At least that’s what my clients are telling me.

The consequences of having a career you love can easily shift over to the positive side by simply investing in yourself through career development planning.

Career Development Planning Requires Strategic Thinking

One thing I love about John’s Big C/Little C tool is that it gets you thinking strategically. I believe that we’re all strategic, we just may not be aware of our strategies, and sometimes we choose the wrong strategies.

Let me explain. Say you’re in a job where you’re making a good salary but you don’t fit in with the culture. Your strategy is to stay where you are because you’re getting paid “good money.” You can live with the culture and just do your job, staying away from the politics. But then a new “sheriff” comes into town – boss, CEO, whatever. And that new sheriff decides you’re just not his cup of tea, so you get pushed aside.

How’s that “good money” working for you? You’re stressed out, you feel like a failure, and your talents are being wasted. Poor strategy!

Career Development Planning Requires Courage

It takes courage to assess your strategies and redirect your course! And it really doesn’t take that much courage. All it takes is getting real with yourself. Tell the truth about what you want. And push all those thoughts inside your head that say, “It can’t happen, there are no jobs, people don’t get paid to do what they want, you should just be grateful you have a job …” [Yuck! I got nauseous just writing that.]

Have the courage to ask for help so you can create new strategies, ones that are effective and align with who you really are and what you have to offer.

Career Development Planning Requires Persistence

After courage comes the hard part – the work. What is the work? The work is knowing and taking a stand for who you really are at your best, and then creating win-win opportunities.

I’ve seen some people get really, really close to discovering a great career path only to give up on themselves and stay in what they think is a safe job, or a job others think they “should be” happy with. And then they get sick – physically, emotionally, spiritually, or mentally. You may fool everyone else with your plastic smile, but you can’t fool your body. Big, fat consequence!

From my heart to yours, I want you to know that you are worthy of a career you love in a place where you talents are valued. And it will be easy because you will make it easy. You will make it easy because you’ll be clear about what you want, why you want it, and the steps you need to take to get there. And when the winds of change shift around you, you will not be caught off guard because you’re always working your plan to get exactly what you want.

Your career is an essential part of your well being. And career development planning is abundance personified through you.

Look Ma, No Hands!

Career Development Planning is Like Riding a Bicycle

Did you have a bicycle when you were a kid? If so, think about the day when you got the hang of riding your bicycle and one day, you let go of the handle bars, and said, “Look Ma, no hands.”

It wasn’t that hard. Just a little planning & practice, courage, and perseverance, and you were sailing down the street getting a taste of success and freedom.

So, hop on your Big C bicycle, and get that career development plan going.

Enjoy the ride! It’s awesome!

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What if getting a life you love were easy, fun, and energizing?

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Change happens! Getting a life you love is up to you.

Today I heard someone say, “Our employees need to just deal with the changes around here. Move on. Get over it. We have work to do.”

Well, twinkle, twinkle little star… if change were only that simple!

We’re all being asked to change quickly because situations outside of us are changing so fast – technology, global economies, highly connected societies. And yet, many people struggle with how to change.

  • How do you reorient yourself when your situation changes?
  • How do you redefine yourself when what you knew is different, sometimes radically?
  • What helps you with getting a life where you easily transition from one change to the other without sacrificing your true self?

Author William Bridges Explains the Difference Between Change and Transition

My go-to person for change is Dr. William Bridges, author of the book (along with many others) Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes. Bridges has made a career out of helping individuals and organizations make the most of change, especially personal change.

In the early ‘90s the company I worked for was going through layoffs. Since I was in HR, I was part of a team that had to burn the midnight oil putting together severance packages that would be passed out the next day. I still recall waves of nausea washing over me as I read the names of people I knew – people who had no idea that they would soon be getting a life they likely did not want.

Fortunately my manager had the foresight to give all of us a copy of Transitions. Reading this book helped me to process what Bridges describes as the “personal side of change called transition.”

Bridges explains that change and transition are different. Change is situational, physical. Transition is psychological, emotional. It’s important to understand the difference and then you can do something about it. Ponder these questions…

  • How do you re-create yourself in the midst of change you don’t want? Reorganizations, layoffs, new manager who doesn’t know what you do, being fired, new project assignment
  • What helps you stay productive and engaged in the midst of all the change going around you?
  • What happens when change is good (new baby, business growth, marriage, etc.) but you’re not feeling particularly energized or happy?

Author Angeles Arrien Teaches the Art of Letting Go

Another book I recommend is The Four-Fold Way, by Angeles Arrien, especially the chapter, “The Way of the Teacher.” In this chapter, Arrien suggests that we must learn the art of letting go.

Letting go doesn’t mean you stop caring or become passive. It simply means you are more open-minded and flexible, trusting yourself and your own creative abilities to make the transition. And you might just discover getting a life that’s better than you imagined.

8 Ideas to Help with Getting a Life Where Change is Easy

I’ve put together some ideas from Bridges and Arrien’s books to help you work through the changes in your life – to assist you in the transition process. Getting a life where change is easy could be closer than you think…

  • Invest in self-renewal. You don’t have to go away for months of meditation (unless you just want to and can afford it). Set time aside daily for silence, listening to what is true for you. Just be! Don’t be surprised when wisdom starts oozing out of you!
  • Don’t be reactive. Many people go into firefighting mode when they are going through a change. Essentially they focus on tasks (to-do lists) and are not thinking about the big picture. Their strategies aren’t very effective because they are trying to short cut the process. I advise my clients to enjoy the process and don’t let fear sidetrack you into getting a life that’s even more difficult.
  • It’s okay to be uncomfortable. Stress symptoms are a sign that something is changing. You don’t have to be afraid that something is wrong with you. Don’t resist either. Recently I experienced a change I did not want; my usual response is to fight the feelings of anxiety and fear, and see the bright side. This time I tried a different approach – I invited the scary feelings in. I began pruning my gardenia bush & saying out loud every fear I had about this situation. I was just about to finish my pruning when I lost my footing and fell right into that bush. Laughing out loud, I said, “Thanks for the nudge, God! I guess it’s time to move on.”
  • Don’t change too much at once. When everything around you seems to be changing so fast, look for something that’s stable. Maybe it’s a ritual of eating Mexican on Friday nights (mine), watching a favorite tv show with your whole family, or walking your dog on Sundays …
  • Talk to someone. A coach, trusted friend, or professional counselor will help you make sense of how you’re feeling. You don’t need someone to tell you what to do (although you may think you do); you need someone to help you brainstorm creative ideas for working through the transition. You need support, encouragement, and ideas for authentic action.
  • Explore your future. Bridges states, “Transitions clear the ground for new growth.” As you are working through the change you’re in right now, there are growth opportunities waiting out there for you. What skills, abilities, interests, passions need to be explored? Who can you talk with to help you answer the question, “What do I really, really want”?
  • What else do you need to learn? When things change, you’ll likely have to learn new skills and increase your knowledge about certain things. I walked away from my corporate job with a plan to use the time to figure out what I wanted to do with my career. My strategy was to explore lots of different paths and be open to what emerged. Soon I reconnected with a former colleague who said, “You should check out the coaching field. You’d be great at that.” So I did, and I knew after my first day at class that coaching was the career for me. Be a lifelong learner so that you will always be on the leading edge of change.
  • Change has a shape. This is something I wasn’t aware of until I read Bridges’ book. Something ends, next comes a season of “fertile emptiness”, and then there is something new. This is how change occurs.

Now is the Time for Getting a Life You Love 

Nourish your Transition Process

If you think about that last bullet, the “fertile emptiness,” that’s the part that most people don’t even think about. We think we can take a shortcut and just hurry through, but keep in mind that part of that term is “fertile.”

It takes time for seeds to germinate, babies to grow, and bread to rise. Getting a life and career you love requires you to nourish and tend to your transition process so that change is easy, fun, and energizing.

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It’s time to consider new approaches to learning, like online development…

Developing people is what will grow your business. Unfortunately, as budgets tighten the first thing many businesses cut is learning and development. online development

I know, paying for that pricey training program is hard to justify when money is tight. Believe me, as a tiny business owner I’ve felt the fear of spending money on learning, even online development.

Whether you are a large corporation or a micro business, finding ways to select and fund strategic and ongoing learning is key to sustainable growth.

Businesses that find the courage and the resources to keep people at their personal learning edge, will be the ones to find their way into the leading edge of their markets.

Makes sense, right?

Traditional classroom training is just not as effective as we need

Then why are many people still so resistant to funding development? Because most development, even online development,  is solely funded (motivated) by an employer and typically comes in the form of high priced training that takes time away from work and is marginally effective, at best.

I know. I’ve conducted some of those trainings.

Coaching is more effective than traditional training

Coaching Conversations Have High Impact

When I discovered coaching, I was thrilled because it addressed many of the issues associated with training. Coaching is:

  • Time effective. It usually happens within 30 – 90 minute sessions.
  • Laser focused. Specific learning goals are typically established up front.
  • Personally motivated. There is no way for participants to slip in and out unnoticed.
  • Context specific. Coaches work with clients on their specific challenges and situations.
  • Results oriented. It is very clear when learning becomes competent behavior.

The remaining challenges with coaching are price and access; coaching is typically very, very expensive ranging from $150 per hour and up… a resource that only select few can access, typically those identified as ‘top talent.’

As large organizations downsize, each employee becomes more and more critical. With micro businesses, every person involved makes a difference. In the new economy, every person needs to be top talent – both self identified and recognized as such by others.

In my goal of being the best coach and teacher possible, the issues of affordability and accessibility of development were the last obstacles to overcome in providing ongoing, effective, coaching style learning.

Online development makes coaching accessible and affordable

The solution? Coaching delivered as online development provided in the context of a social environment, where all the benefits of coaching can be realized, and more including:

Access Online Development from Anywhere!

  • Learning rigor. Critical topics are covered that you just may not get to in a coaching conversation.
  • Participant synergy. With online development delivered via discussion forums and virtual interactive sessions, participants learn from each other.
  • Asynchronous access. Engagement, including socializing, can happen at any time that is convenient for the participant.
  • Excellent quality. With technology we are easily able to update content and provide fresh and relevant case studies.
  • Affordable pricing. The hourly cost of coaching plummets to levels that any and all can afford – who are motivated!

Online development is ideal when it replicates the dynamic nature of a coaching conversation, and is designed using the disciplined approaches of traditional training.

Online development works when the participant is personally motivated

Online Development is Effective When People are Motivated

Yes personal motivation and commitment are critical aspects of effective learning. The most powerful coaching and learning happens when goals are both personally and contextually relevant.

We’re even playing around with the idea that online development should only be paid for by the participant to ensure personal motivation and commitment – a reasonable idea the more affordable we make the learning – yet priced high enough to convey the real value we offer.

The importance of personal motivation and commitment are the reason we provide our online development to the public. ‘Top talent resources’ are thus available to anyone who decides they want to be top talent. No more excuses! No more obstacles!

Online development allows us to have the greatest impact possible

Our motivation is to have the most engaged participants we can possibly have, in ways that meet whatever demand comes our way, because in the end this is how we’ll have the most fun – and impact.

Find out more about our approach to online development here!

Have you decided for yourself that you are top talent? What resources will help you be top talent – indispensable and highly relevant?

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Too much stress and stress management techniques aren’t working?

Maybe you’re focusing on the wrong thing.

Throughout the years of working with people in my corporate life and as a business and career coach, I’ve seen way too many people experience stress at work. What they may not realize is that simply shifting their focus (even slightly) is an extremely useful stress management technique.

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Not focused on stress and stress management

A Couple Loses Their Jobs at the Same Time

Last year my friend and her husband lost their jobs within a few months of each other. And neither one of them seemed anxious or stressed.

My friends looked at their situation as an opportunity to find something they liked better. They continued on with their lives. They went to workshops to increase their skills in public speaking, networking, and interviewing. They enjoyed weekends going to their son’s basketball games. They rode their motorcycles. If you met them, you would never know they were both laid off.

Are these people freaks of nature or independently wealthy? I assure you, they are not. They are normal – and yet they are definitely not average!

Changing Your Focus Bypasses Traditional stress and stress management Techniques

What are these 2 people doing that others aren’t? I love studying people and why they do the things they do, especially when they get successful results. So, I asked my friend how they were able to deal with the emotional stress of a seemingly financially and emotionally devastating situation.

So my friend said, “We just focus on what we want. It takes the same amount of energy to focus on what you want than what you don’t want except you’ll get better results focusing on what you want.”

She also said, “Instead of focusing on saving money, I choose to focus on how I can make money. This doesn’t mean we don’t save because we do. We live beneath our means, always. The point is that we don’t spend our energy thinking about cutting costs, stiffing the waiter out of a good tip, or stealing hotel towels. We use our creative energy to think about how we could make more money.”

My friend said she had no doubt they would be able to find work, and this time they know better. They won’t just take any job that pays the bills. They are looking for something they really want to do and that leverages their gifts. So I asked her if this was positive thinking. She laughed and said, “No, it’s just the truth. We’ve gotten jobs before and we’ll get them again. We have a lot to offer a company, and people will want to hire us.”

The Door is Always Open to Your Dreams

You may describe my friend’s behaviors and actions as Law of Attraction, putting out to the Universe what you want, asking God for the desires of your heart, or rewiring your brain synapses. Whatever is your belief system is fine by me. What I’m more interested in are the conscious choices my friend and her husband made to bypass many of the stress and stress management techniques we’ve all read about.

Two Different Approaches to Stress and Stress Management

I’m not saying stress management techniques don’t work. I am a strong advocate for meditation, prayer, exercise, eating healthy, and getting support from people who can help you. What I am suggesting is choosing to focus your energy on what’s going well, what you’re grateful for, what you know is true about your gifts, and what you want to offer the world. This is an abundance approach to stress and stress management.

What I’ve found is when you focus on what you don’t want, you’re creating some type of resistance, or you’re holding on too tightly to something that is not serving you well. This is a scarcity approach to stress and stress management.

What you’re essentially saying is, “There is not enough for everyone. If I let go, someone is going to take this thing from me that I need to be safe. Even though I’m not happy at least it’s better than the unknown.” That happened to me one time, and I spent 6 months battling TMJ. Clenching my jaws is a sure sign of fear. When I finally let go, the TMJ went away.

Abundance Thinking

I think about my friends’ approach to losing their jobs, and what I’ve landed on is that they are not positive thinkers, they are abundance thinkers. They don’t look at their work as a j-o-b where they slog away and pick up their paycheck for doing their work. Ho-hum. Their approach to work is they give the very best they have to offer and at the same time ensure they have plenty of work life balance. They focus on what they want and then put together a plan create it for themselves.

And it works – my friend accepted a job with a great company, negotiated a higher salary, and got it. “In this economy,” you ask? Darn straight!

When you feel stress and stress management techniques don’t seem to be working, consider using an abundance approach. What will you choose to focus on that tells the truth about what you really want and what you have to offer? What keeps you from offering your gifts to the world? Don’t you know that an organization, business, or people need someone just like you – to show inspire them to be better versions of themselves!

Try Our Fun Experiment

Take out sheet of paper & draw a line down the middle of it. At the top of the left column, write the words “abundant thoughts.” At the top of the right column, write the words, “scarcity thoughts.” Throughout the next 24-48 hours, write down all the thoughts that come into your head putting them into the appropriate column.

If your thoughts are mostly abundant thoughts, kudos to you! You can expect less stress and stress management won’t be necessary because you’re simply in the flow of life. If most of your thoughts are scarcity thoughts, see how you could move 1 or 2 over into the abundant column – and just take it one step at a time. It’s not a race. Just keep moving forward.

Even moving one or two thoughts from scarcity to abundance will make a huge difference in your life.

And now, tell us below what you discovered about your approaches. What could you teach us about the choices you make/are making?

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Career Help for the Conscious Creator

by KarenTax on June 22, 2011

Take an active role in transforming the way we work and live!

As Einstein so beautifully stated: “You cannot solve a problem from the same consciousness that created it. You must learn to see the world anew.”

Conscious Creators will Uplift the Economy!

Given the consistent, persistent state of our languishing economy, I’m convinced that conscious creators are going to be the ones to lift us out of the economic doldrums. It’s time to think about work anew!

Are you a conscious creator?

Not sure if you are a conscious creator? Here are some indicators:

  • You take responsibility for your thoughts and behaviors
  • You understand the attractive power of your life-force energy
  • You know that positive and hopeful emotions fuel your dreams

Conscious Creation Connects All Religion and No Religion

You may be a Christian, Jewish, Hindu, Muslim, Buddhist, Atheist, Agnostic, Pagan… You may or may not be comfortable with the word ‘Spiritual’.

You know that how you think and act matters. You resonate with the idea that ‘we vote every day.’

And you are ready to participate in creating a new way, because you want to make a difference.

Bringing conscious creation to your career can be a challenge

We know it can be tricky to make a difference …  For example, you may have read Echart Tolle’s ‘A New Earth’ and got excited about expanding your consciousness, but are stalled in knowing how to apply these ideas to work and business.

That’s why we provide career help in the form of:

What can you do now?

In the meantime, there are steps you can take now to make a difference:

Conscious Creators Make Conscious Choices

  1. Reduce the stress in your life. It is very difficult to make conscious choices when you live in fear and drama.
  2. Imagine the world as you want it to be. Pick one or two specific things that you want to see happening. Don’t worry about all that is wrong!
  3. Decide to make conscious choices every day. Intend for your choices to contribute to creating what you want to see in the world.
  4. Include your own healing/learning. Trying to fix others is not attractive! Make choices personally relevant to keep your conscious creation ‘clean.’
  5. Know what path you are on. Have a process you can use every day to guide the transformation of your choices and the path you are on.

Building a bridge between conscious creation and business

Conscious Creators Connect the Personal and Practical

It can be difficult when you first bring the concepts of attraction or a new way of working  into the mainstream world of profit obsessed business and data focused rationalism. We know!

That’s why the framework we have created with the IAM Maps provides a link between the most personal and the very practical of the business world.

For example, the IAM Maps guide you to examine both personal and professional values. When personal and professional values are in conflict, you abdicate your ability to be a conscious creator…

We provide guidance aligning your personal and professional values, and address the personal healing and learning that may be needed to truly honor your hearts’ desires and to follow your conscious creator career path.

Learn how to talk about what matters

Conscious Creators Make Heart Connections

The IAM Maps and coaching further guide you in ways to talk about your values and work in practical ways that make sense in the rational world of business, while at the same time bringing heart and meaning to the conversation.

We honor the best of both the personal and practical!

What conscious choices are you choosing to make today?

What are the challenges you are facing being a conscious creator?

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It’s time to be getting a life when you are:

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It's Time to Get a Life When the Best Thing in Life is the End of the Day

  • Bored
  • Apathetic
  • Complacent
  • Blaming Others
  • Dreading work
  • Dreading home
  • Stressed or sick

In other words, getting a life is needed when you are tolerating an unhealthy home or work situation, you know it’s not good, and you’re staying there because you don’t have the guts to do something about it.

Getting a life means at home or at work!

I mention both work and home situations because you can not be your best if either domain is not optimal.

I’ll focus now on knowing when to ‘quit your job;’ know that these concepts can be used equally well at home!

Getting a life means deciding to be your best

Gone are the days when an employer had limited choice on who to hire. Your best offense in tough economic times is to be confident in being your best.

If you are waiting for affirmation from your boss that you are doing a great job, or waiting for a challenge that will take you to the next level of your best – you are in deep do-do my friend!

You must take charge of this process yourself! And it you have settled for mediocre performance for a long time, it’s time to boogie…

Getting a life might mean quitting your job

You Know When You're at a Dead End

Boogie time means quitting your job, if you know:

  • You are in a dead-end situation. For example, you work at a newspaper or your business is gradually being sold and consumed by larger markets (think telecom).
  • You are not excited about your work. For example, you’ve hung in there for a paycheck to support your family but the passion is simply, gone, gone, gone.
  • Indicators or measures are not improving. For example, you’re not getting the juicy work assignments, or new clients, or discovering new depths of passion.

If this is your situation, it’s time to plan an exit strategy. If this is the first time you’ve really taken charge of your life, then it’s probably the first time you’ve been strategic, so becoming more strategic is the first step in an exit strategy.

Quitting your job means having an exit strategy

An exit strategy for quitting your job includes:

It's Time For Brighter Horizons!

  1. Get support in becoming more strategic about your life. Be able to see a path forward.
  2. Take full responsibility for your current situation. It’s time to stop all blame.
  3. Reduce the stress in your life – immediately. Stress is the enemy of creativity.
  4. Begin to engage your creativity and imagination. See new possibilities.
  5. Tap in to whatever passion you can ignite. Engage your heart and find courage.
  6. Commit to being your authentic best – smart, talented. Stop selling yourself short.
  7. Garner the resources needed for a transition. Have money, support, further plans.

The key is to start now. Before things become dire, i.e. you are laid-off without savings wondering how all this happened.

Getting a life is the way forward

Honestly, the longer you wait the harder it gets. Getting a life is just not an option any more; it’s the only way forward to being your best.

Career help is the key to success in challenging times.  Consider what it will take for you to make real changes!

What are you ready to commit to now, on a path to getting a life?

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Career Development Planning-Tips from Brownnosers

You’ve seen them – the brown nosers, sweet talkers, bootlickers, goody two-shoes, kiss ass, suck ups, yes-men, and the like!

How can they live with themselves? How come your boss doesn’t see through them?

This morning I wondered about that very thing while my husband brought me breakfast in bed. Kidding!

Recently I had a conversation with some friends about brownnosers in their office. They talked about favoritism, stupid people getting promoted, and people getting thrown under the bus. We could all relate – been there, been burned by that.

Then just this week I found a website praising the skills of brownnosers. Yes, that’s right – praising the skills of brownnosers. That got my attention.

A Website for Brownnosers – Really?

The website, Brownnosing 101, was created by Linda Teza, corporate refugee, and currently writer and professor. Linda had an interesting perspective that I hadn’t considered: brownnosers are simply using some fundamental business skills – visibility, positioning, networking and connecting.

What is it we despise so much about brownnosers? It’s what I perceive as their motivation that bothers me: self-serving, competition, superficial, manipulation.

I certainly don’t want to imitate those types of behaviors, but I’m open-minded enough to know that I can learn from anyone – even if it’s what not to do.

Brownnosing Skill for Your Career Development Planning – Visibility

When it comes to career development planning, being skilled at visibility is critical. In my experience, it’s something almost everyone struggles with. People know they need to be visible, but they aren’t sure how to do it in a way that feels authentic and not slimy.

I’ve had many conversations with my clients about visibility. Here’s a sample of them below. How would you answer these questions?

  • How often do you meet with your manager, engaging her/him in your vision and strategies … not talking about tactics? What I hear from the executives I work with is that too many of their employees want to talk about details.

Leaders don’t need the details; they’re more interested in your ideas, vision, and strategies. You figure out the details.

  • How often do you speak up in meetings? I know some people are just naturally quiet or like to process their thoughts internally, but I continue to hear people say their managers want them to speak up in meetings.

Don’t sit there all smug saying, “Well, I would talk, but you can’t get a word in edgewise with Diane in the meeting.” Try writing down an idea, suggestion, or perspective while others are talking. Then find a way to say it – even if you have to interrupt with something like, “Pardon me, Diane. I have an idea I’d like to share with the group. May I jump in here”?

  • When you’re at a networking event, what is the quality of your conversation? Are you looking for ways of connecting to people on a personal level? Or are you just talking business, keeping the conversation superficial? Your products and services don’t differentiate you from others, who you are will.

And speaking of networking, how do you follow up with people? Something I learned in business development was to send an email or note after the meeting to recap the salient points of the meeting and thank the person for their time. That extra step is a big one.

  • How do you talk about what you do well? Whether you’re interviewing for a job/role, discussing your performance, pitching a product or service, or running for office, you have to talk about yourself.

A huge roadblock I see people struggle with is they either go on and on, or they don’t say enough. I’ve even heard people say, “Well they should know what I do well. I work 10 hours a day.” NOT!

  • Think about who is in your inner circle – people you go to lunch or dinner with, people you go to a game with, people at your church or club, people in your industry. How wide is that circle? Are you only hanging out with people like you? If you are, you’re missing out.

When it comes to your career, it’s important to be connected to a diverse group of people from all walks of life and all levels. When you do, your life is enriched, your perspective expands, and many times you get free informal mentoring.

You don’t have to get run over or pushed aside by the brownnosers in your office, group, or family (yeah, they exist in families too). You can learn these skills too and not be the one everyone wants to be run over by a bus on the way to work!

When you think about career development planning, what have you found to be helpful with visibility? What has challenged you?

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Traditional career development planning re-enforces the status quo; we need ways to be more human and unique!

Traditional career development planning usually looks something like the following:

career development planning

Traditional Career Development Planning

  1. complete background information
  2. set your development goals
  3. write your action steps
  4. list obstacles and solutions
  5. identify your resources

If you’re lucky step 1 includes some sort of self assessment that encourages you to follow your interests and leverage your strengths. Usually step 1 also asks you to address ways to deal with your weaknesses because certainly you need to be fixed.

Why traditional career development planning is obsolete

Typical Linear Thinking About Career Paths

This type of process is obsolete for several reasons:

  1. The focus is to get you to fit into known career paths.
  2. The process is left brain oriented.
  3. It doesn’t guide people toward atypical or soul-nourishing opportunities.
  4. Most processes heavily favor the corporate advantage.
  5. Most managers and employees have no time to actually do career development planning.

Lest I throw the baby out with the bath water, there are some positives about the way career development planning has been done: it’s a great way to imagine the details of what a particular career path might look like and get guidance on that path.

Traditional approaches are limited

But the limitations of traditional career development are extreme, especially in these times when staying with in the confines of ‘the way things have been done’ does little to move individuals and organizations toward new and innovative ways of working.

Career development planning is designed to guide you to fit in, think logically, stay within the bounds of what is known without helping you be more authentic, human, or extraordinary.

It follows logical, linear paths that could never anticipate the myriad permutations and combinations possible if we allowed our hearts to guide our career journeys.

It typically gives lip service to equal ownership in the process, instead falling back to the paternal role of management taking care of your career opportunities like promotions and raises.

Employees get lulled into thinking someone is ‘watching out for them’ and often get blind sided by a layoff or unforeseen change, when instead they need to be taking charge of and driving their career development planning process.

We need approaches that foster being human and unique

We need to help both individuals and organizations be more remarkable and human, to be leaders internally in the business and externally in the market, by accomplishing the following goals:

Nuture People to be Originals

  • Know how to be your authentic, unique, unapologetic best
  • Handle the stress of increased demands caused by constant change
  • Learn how to be entrepreneurial and resourceful
  • Follow your passions and do what your heart wants
  • Use your imagination and dreams to discover possibilities beyond the status quo

Seth Godin beautifully summarizes these goals in his book Lynchpin, where he poses that traditional organizations reward mediocre, obedient bureaucrats when instead they should encourage artists, develop leaders and learn to solve interesting problems – in order to be remarkable in the marketplace.

Career development planning can be different

You might think that the goals I’ve proposed here for career development planning are beyond the reach of most individuals and organizations.

Think again! They are far more easily attained then you might realize! I know because I’ve worked with thousands of people to accomplish these goals, and have developed a holistic approach to career development planning that brings out the above and more using the IAM Maps and the IAM Career SMART! online learning offering.

Want to know more? Sign up as a free member to receive the IAM Manifest: a Holistic Framework to Love Your Work and Life.

a Holistic Framework to Love Your Work and Life

As you think about your own personal career path, or the career support offered by your organization, imagine what it might be like to have encouragement and guidance in being your real, authentic, passionate, whole human self …

What might be possible? How would your life be different? How could you improve the lives of others? We’d love to see your thoughts below …

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The IAM Way

by KarenTax on May 16, 2011

Old ways are being challenged

I was listening to the news and heard a story about troubled automaker Toyota, besieged by a series of devastating challenges: Japan’s environmental disasters and a series of recalls that have called consumer confidence into question.

The impact of these challenges has been severe: Toyota announced a 77% decrease in their profits.

Toyota’s situation is also a reminder of how radically the world of work is changing: environmental disasters, global economic competition, persistent global economic recession…

Mother earth is asking us to find a better way

It’s as if mother earth has sneezed upon us trying to free herself of the congestion we have created within her body, while at the same time we ourselves have decided to contract our spending and activities as we try to find our way in an exploding business arena.

No one seems exempt from ‘the squeeze’ of these types of challenges, from giant corporations to Joe Worker trying to navigate a layoff or increased demands at work.

Toyota is famous for building their business empire based on ‘the Toyota Way’: approaches that have lead to groundbreaking management practices and production efficiencies. I sincerely hope that ‘the Toyota Way’ and the resilience of Toyota employees will help guide this business back to success.

And I have every confidence that we will all ultimately come out of  ‘the squeeze’ for the better …

At the same time, the challenges Toyota is facing, indeed that we are all facing, requires a new way of approaching business and work. A more holistic way that honors the rhythms of mother earth, as well as each individual living being on the planet. We need a new way where each individual organism thrives, so the entire earth organism thrives.

Most people would think this is too big of a challenge, too much to ask for … but no! Over the last 5 years I have developed and evolved an approach that I know will at a minimum get us headed in a better direction. And there are thousands more like me, also creating new ways.

The IAM way

I call the approach I’ve developed, The IAM Way. It was never a goal; it emerged out of my hopes, dreams and necessity. Already hundreds of people have contributed to it’s evolution (especially Diane Craver!), as will thousands more, and the way will continue to emerge.

The IAM Way is a guide to new approaches to business, work and indeed all of life – a holistic way that creates shifts:

  • from scarcity thinking to abundance thinking
  • from masculine/feminine power struggles to harmony and synergy
  • from inequities of power found in hierarchies to equality of power
  • from dualism of all kinds to non-dualism (wholism?!)

I currently see the IAM Way as characterized by the following:

Conscious

I can remember being in a group of change agents at Nortel Networks discussing how to get executives to understand the importance of self-awareness. From their perspective, it was a ‘naval gazing’ and impractical conversation; to us it was a matter of life or death. Being conscious is about being self-aware, ongoing and evolving. Being conscious is necessary to feel and see when you’re headed down an unhealthy path, either as an individual or an organization, and then having enough courage to do something about it other than just working harder. Nortel Networks died a slow painful death that we change agents saw coming because we knew the price you pay for being unconscious when your environment is calling you to wake up.

Equal

Many ways of approaching business, work and life have confused position power (executive, manager, parent) with true power, which is the power I have to create my reality and my experience however I want and however I choose. With inequities of power, one person defers to another, giving away their power. With inequities of power, we create unhealthy relationships and dynamics, where ultimately we end up in the roles of victim, rescuer and persecutor.

Only by engaging with true power, seeing beneath the superficiality of position power, can we access the soul level of our beings – where we are all equal. When I remember that we are all equal, and there is enough for all, then the most productive and healthy interactions occur.

Many times people confuse ‘equal’ with ‘the same’ and assume that equal power is the same as equal experience. Not true! The executive will have a clarity of vision that an employee does not; the manager will have experiences of success that more junior people may not; a parent can see the consequence of teenage behavior that the child does not.

With the IAM Way we share our experience not to have power or advantage over others, but instead to share our power and in the process call out the power in others, knowing that together as equals we can create more than we could alone.

Non-hierarchical

Hierarchies are useful for organizing: groups of people, categories of things, decision making processes and the like. Hierarchies are often misused for: doling out power, creating barriers between groups (silos), displacing stress from upper to lower levels and so forth. Hierarchies become dysfunctional when the needs and desires of higher levels outweigh those of lower levels and unequal power, status and respect results.

The IAM Way is inherently non-hierarchical, where people show up based on merit and common interests, and stay associated because it’s fun and productive. Associations based on fear wither away (I can’t leave this job I hate because I don’t have any other options). Associations thrive that are based on love, abundance, healing and learning.

Relaxed

Stress and fear are useful in small doses; when they are chronic they are literally life threatening. States of calm relaxation, balanced with natural rhythms of  excitement and tension, are the most conducive to creativity and innovation. Compared to the typical busyness and intensity of most work environments, the IAM Way is decidedly chill: slow, not urgent, relaxed.

We know we have more than enough time, energy and resources to do everything we want. We know that any task worth doing, is worth doing well and in a relaxed fashion, especially if we want to experience depths of pleasure and creative expression along the way.

Whole

Most ways of working have you check 80% of yourself at the door. The 20% that shows up is the part that fits within your ideas of what is needed to be successful. The ‘left behind parts’ are sacrificed for a higher good, the needs of others or the rules of the game (the TV show Survivor is a great example).

With the IAM Way we know that any compartmentalizing of our wholeness leads to disease and dysfunction. Our goal is to live with integrity, becoming more whole and authentic with every experience and interaction. Work and life is a journey of healing, and claiming our wholeness more and more each day.

Reciprocal

In the world of scarce power, I get what I want and you don’t. Or I get what I want only when you get what you want. With the IAM Way, we all always get what we want or something better. Relationships are reciprocal in that we support each other in getting what we want for our mutual benefit.

We know that the process of finding the territory where we can all get what we want will take us beyond limiting beliefs into realms of new possibility and potential.

Artistic

Our purpose in life is to experience abundant joy and creativity; sometimes I describe this as being your best.  Notice I didn’t say our purpose in life is to make money. With the IAM Way, we know that when we make the focus of our work making money, we loose sight of our real purpose, and work becomes a job, a daily grind, something to endure.

Making money is great – as a by-product of focused creative expression. When we remember that we are artistic, creative, joyful beings first and foremost, absolutely everything in life, including income, falls into place.

Sustainable

Personal growth, business growth, consumption of natural resources, all are not sustainable when we live from scarcity feelings such as ‘I can never be enough or have enough’. We consume more than we actually need because of a fundamental disconnect between our sense of who we are and our true nature.

With the IAM Way we know that connecting to the essence of ourselves , is accessing abundant, infinite potential and gives us a sense of being enough and having enough. We know that sustainability in the natural world, starts with sustainable in our inner worlds, built by connecting every day with our essence which is comprised of the energy of love.

Fun

Disconnect from our true selves is a drag; it creates conflict and drama and stress. We know we are grooving in the IAM Way when we’re having fun and things are simple, not stressful. We laugh a lot. We look forward to being together, creating and growing. It’s a lot more fun to focus on what’s working well, on what’s positive, on what’s possible, than on problems.

The tough stuff is there for our learning and healing and when we see it that way, it actually becomes part of the fun. Really! Conflict, drama and stress poof away quickly when you use them to develop yourself. Anything is possible when you’re having fun and everything that happens has the potential to be fun.

This is my version of the IAM way

 

Each characteristic of the IAM Way, and the way I’ve described them, is very personal based on my wisdom and experience working with clients. I’ve described what I’ve learned about connecting to and living from IAM – our true abundant and infinite nature: masculine and feminine, positive and negative, light and dark.

You may have different characteristics to describe your IAM Way.  Or you may include the characteristics I’ve used, but describe them in a very different way…

My hope and intention is that you get a clear sense of what’s possible with my description of the IAM Way, and add your thoughts here about your perspective. There is no one IAM Way, there is actually a different IAM Way for each and every person on this planet…

What’s core to our ways is the IAM way

What’s key and core to ALL IAM Ways is our true abundant natures and the reality of how we can live in peace and harmony right this very moment when I remember who IAM. IAM is like the pole in this picture: it connects your way and my way together.

Our opportunity now is to create a new way forward that is loving, peaceful, and sustainable. We don’t actually have to wait for anyone or anything else, other that ourselves! And to remember in this very moment who IAM.

Now about how to develop the characteristics of the IAM Way? That’s what the IAM Learning Community is all about, and the IAM Maps are what we use to guide us in the IAM Way:

  • The IAM Essence Map
  • The IAM Energy Map
  • The IAM Navigational Compass

You can find out more about the maps throughout this website …

Please share your thoughts about the IAM Way as I’ve described here, and your version of the IAM Way!

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Who taught you how to have a great career? Likely no one … you simply fell into something, or you just started down this path and it just happened. My friend, there’s a new career game in town, and it’s time you learned how to play it so that you’re on the winning side.

Karen and I have recently seen a big influx of new clients this spring. People are realizing it’s time to invest in learning how to be smarter about their careers … and they’re getting amazing results! We received this feedback from a client survey…

“The impact on my work was almost immediate. I was able to set boundaries, get some breathing room and take an active role in determining what my job would be. From there, I was able to really evaluate what I wanted out of life and work and set longer term goals based on that. I worked toward those goals and am starting to reach them. I feel much more content and balanced now, as if I am at the rudder of my own life.”

Karen and I want to be able to help a whole lot more people get the career help they need, so we’re officially announcing that we’ll be starting a brand new program sometime in June –IAM Career SMART! Group Coaching. Exciting!

It’s the foundational stuff no one teaches you and everyone needs … before the job hunt, starting a business, or whatever career choices you’re considering – paid or even unpaid.

Our group is for people actively seeking solutions to career challenges such as:

  • Balancing work and life – one of the major causes of stress
  • Feeling irrelevant, uncertain or worried about your future
  • Wanting a career you love but not sure what to do or how to get started

CLICK HERE for more information about IAM Career SMART! Group Coaching

Our individual clients are discovering ways to be energized, hopeful, and enthusiastic about their work – finding peace in the midst of chaos. They’re making the shift from a j.o.b. that pays the bills … to work that is creative, fulfilling and PAYS what they want – sometimes even more than they thought was possible!

We expect the same results from our IAM Career SMART! Group coaching participants. This is going to be such a fun and motivating experience because we’ll be working with people personally through weekly coaching calls and online coaching.

At the end of the program, everyone will have created a personal strategic plan for their careers. They’ll be able to use this plan and tools such as the IAM Maps to guide their career choices throughout their careers, no matter what’s going on around them.

If you’re even remotely interested …

CLICK HERE for more information about IAM Career SMART! Group Coaching.

There are limited spots available, and we’ll likely only offer this program one time in 2011, so when registration opens, you’ll want to know about it.

You can’t buy anything yet. Just sign up, and we’ll tell you everything you want to know.

What questions do you have about IAM Career SMART! Group Coaching? We’re here to answer them all!

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